During the Full Moon on January 6th, we offered a candle ritual to release unhealthy family dynamics and heal your wounded inner child. Now that the New Moon is in the sign of social Aquarius I’m sensing it’s a great time to consider cultivating a second-chance family of choice. This could seem daunting at first, especially when you are also healing low self-esteem and probably don’t trust easily. With all great ideas, you have to pace yourself and because we are talking about people, hearts, and feelings, you’ll definitely want to proceed with caution. Still, Annie Wright’s article in Psychology Today, Making the Whole Beautiful says, “It’s never too late to have healthy, functional, loving relationships, even if these weren't modeled in one's family of origin. And cultivating a second-chance family-of-choice can be deeply healing.”
Candle Ritual for Attracting a Family of Choice
For this candle ritual, you will need an Attraction/Love Blessed Herbal candle and a candle holder. You will also need supplies for creating a vision board. Paper or cardboard, words and pictures of people from a magazine, scissors, markers, and glue. A vision board is all about making your ideas and desires visual. It will help you focus your energy so your ideas will manifest in your life. As you go through magazines, cut out pictures and words that best describe your family of choice. What could they look like? How do you feel when you are with them? How do they feel about you? What will they do for you? What will you do for them? What kinds of things will you do together?
When your vision board is done, hang it on the wall. Place it somewhere you will see it every day. Then prepare your candle. Remove the packaging from your Attraction/Love Blessed Herbal candle, say a prayer, or recite the blessing on the label. Place it in the candle holder and light it.
Now talk about your family of choice out loud. Make up a little story about them. Use the images on your vision board to help you bring these people alive in your imagination. Let your candle burn for about 15 minutes to an hour, then extinguish it. Repeat this process daily. Let it become your daily prayer and ritual. The candle has the potential of burning for 70 hours, so you will be at it for a couple of months, but it’s worth the effort.
Keep on the lookout for your people. The universe will start helping them cross your path. Remember, they are looking for you too. Best wishes on building your family of choice!
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